Your parents are sending you on your way, wishing you well and drilling into your head how important it is to focus and study. As much as you're probably nodding your head in agreement, CUT THE CRAP! We all know in the back of your mind you're thinking about parties, freedom and booze (or maybe that was just me). I graduated from college back in 2010 and three years later I feel that I'm in a pretty good place to be able to offer up some advice on how to successfully enjoy the full college experience.
BOYS First off, I don't recommend carrying over that relationship from high school, just because college is your time to grow and figure out what it really is that you wan't in life. You're going to meet so many new people from places you've probably never heard of. And normally you figure out quick that that high school boyfriend really isn't the love of your life like you thought. Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of "high school sweetheart" stories out there, but its rare. And men in college are pretty much just like boys in high school, stupid. Most are just trying to see how many women they can get to before they graduate. If you find "the one" in the early years of college, consider yourself blessed.
The Roommate Not as scary as the horror movie made it seem. She probably won't become overly obsessed with you and kill everyone close to you. At least I hope you don't get caught in a shitty situation like that. But dealing with a roommate is tricky. I was blessed to have an amazing roommate my freshman year (who also became one of my bestfriends). But unfortunately it doesn't work out that way for everyone. It all boils down to respect. Respect her space, respect her stuff, respect her feelings. And she should be doing the same. Just because your roomies doesn't mean you have to be besties but for the sake of each others sanity you're going to have to get along.
Partying/Drinking My favorite subject Freshman through Junior year. Do you have to attend every party going on? No. Do you have to get stupid drunk to the point where you can't walk back to you're dorm? No. But if that is what you decide to do. Be careful. You will quickly learn your drinking tolerance. Remember, if you get that queezy feeling in your stomach after a sip, that is usually your body telling you to put the cup down and have a seat. Trust me. You don't wan't to be known as "that girl" who called earl out in public. Oh and partying late and still being able to make it to class the next morning is a skill. Learn it and perfect it.
Speaking of "that girl", Don't be THAT girl Let's keep it real, we all know at least one. And if you don't, give it another month and you will. You know the girl that is easily approachable and known to "homie hop". The girl that's a little looser than loose change. Yes in college you should be able to have fun, just don't let that fun give you a name. No matter how large your campus may be, word quickly gets around.
You didn't think I was going to write this entire post without shouting out my school did you?
Stay Focused Parties Wednesday through Sunday can be very tempting. And I'm sure that freedom from your parents is going to taste so sweet. But I can't stress enough how important it is to stay focused. What you do your freshman and sophomore year will pretty much pave the way for the rest of your college years. You start failing classes early on, its going to be extremely hard trying to catch up when your junior and senior year come around. TRUST ME, I'm speaking straight from experience on this one.
Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone I wish somebody would of told me this waaayyy back when. College is a learning experience, in and out of the classroom. Like I said you will be meeting people from EVERYWHERE! Don't be afraid to get involved with things going on around campus. You'll be amazed at the things you learn and friends you will make.
Seriously, as confusing as college may have been. It was the best 4 1/2 (the 1/2 is the consequences of too much partying) years of my life. And the confusion won't last forever TRUST ME! Live it UP! Just remember the real world sucks and one day you'll be reminiscing writing blog posts about it like me :)
Did I leave some good advice out? Let me know!